Are you a sub? Do you identify as sexually submissive – always, sometime, never? When does it feel appropriate for you (or your partner) to surrender sexually? Are submission and surrender the same thing? What role does your gender or your sexual orientation play in how you identify?


Many women (and a few men) identify as sexually submissive. There is a world of difference between the kind of submission that one consciously choses in a consensual BDSM context and the automatic submission that many of us experience in today’s world of straight, white heterosexuality. If we surrender during penetrative sex, does that mean that we are automatically a sub?


Patriarchy assigns us some very limiting gendered roles and programms us accordingly. For some of us, the programming that we received turned out to be a farce, a joke, a corset that could never fit our growing and expanding sense of self. In the sex-negative culture in which most of us were raised, for a man to openly identify as submissive requires an extra dose of courage, commitment and self-knowledge.


For pussy owners by contrast, it is just the opposite. Sexual surrender to the more dominant sexual partner seems to go without saying and is consequently seldom called into question. For many of us, there is no possibility to investigate whether our orientation is appropriate or if perhaps there could be something more.


We gain a lot of stability by consciously giving permission for both our Yin (submissive) and Yang (dominant) aspects to develop and evolve. We are multidimensional beings and never just one thing. Understanding and providing space for the many variations within the sexual self will lead to a more balanced and creative dance through life. Our happiness is rooted in honoring all that we are as members of the human race.


Surrendering to the variations that life provides will bring about profound transformation. Join me for this Salon as we uncover a better understanding of submission in our individual lives.


Reserve early. The Salon fills up fast.


The lecture will take place in English.


Date & Time
Thursday 24.03.22 | 19 – 22


This workshop will take place in Zurich. The address will be sent to you when your registration is complete.


CHF 30




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The internationally known sex educator Maggie Tapert has been leading her own brand of unique seminars and workshops for more than twenty years. Her pioneering work in the field of female sexuality is rooted in a profound focus on feminine pleasure and desire. Maggie Tapert was born in the USA and spent most of her adult life in Switzerland. She is mother, grandmother and has a private practice for coaching and mentoring in Zurich. Her autobiography, PLEASURE was first published in 2012 by Südwest Verlag and went into a second printing in 2019.